It’s a long-standing joke that cats always want to curl up on the lap of the person who wants them there least. Cats, as most cat lovers know, have a way of their own that is both discerning and decidedly affectionate. But the question of how cats choose their favorite human in a household is a curious one. 

The cat-loving team at Union Lake Veterinary Hospital is here to explain a bit about cat affection and why some people seem to get all the kitty snuggles.

How Cats Choose Their Favorite Human

Some people accuse cats of being aloof, but we believe they are just particular about how they show their affection and to whom. In a multi-human household, it seems that cats will choose one family member they want to spend more of their time with. According to a study done by the nutrition company, Canadae, they discovered that the person who makes the most effort is the favorite.

People who communicate with their cat by getting to know their cues and motives are more attractive to their cat companions. After all, wouldn’t you want to spend your time with someone who makes it a point to understand you?

Another reason behind their preference is the cat’s breed or personality. If your cat is the sort who just wants to be chill and relax, they will probably go for the family member who is calm and quiet. Playful, energetic cats who love to stay active will likely choose a friend who gives them this exercise and attention. In fact, it may be that your cat is revealing something about you in why they choose to love you best.

Creating a Stronger Bond with Your Cat

To have a kitty BFF, you must get to know them and match their style and personality with how you are with them. Like any relationship, attention and communication are the foundation of creating a deeper bond. Here are four suggestions to encourage a better friendship with your favorite feline.

  1. Spend more time with them. It doesn’t matter what you do, but the time you take is what matters most. You can spend time exercising them with a favorite feather toy, relaxing on the couch, or going for a stroll in the yard on their harness and leash. Any number of activities will do the trick.
  2. Match their interests. If you and your cat like to watch birds outside, create a special place where the two of you can watch birds on the feeder. Or, if your cat is nonstop action, consider training them on a few agility courses suitable for cats. Figure out what the two of you like to do together, and focus more on these activities.
  3. Talk to them. Read up on feline body language and what various meows mean. Talk to them often, whether you think they understand you. They will appreciate the attention and focus on them.
  4. Pet your cat often. Handling a cat more, including pets, scratches, and hugs can help them feel safe and secure. They will naturally want to spend time with the person who pets and scratches them the most!

We hope this helped answer how cats choose their favorite human. If you would like more information on cat behavior and wellness, please contact us. We can also discuss ways to strengthen the bond you share with your cat companion at your appointment.